Has this ever happended to you?

I was invited to go out with friends on a Friday night. The phone rung only hours before the invitation and I quickly said, 'Yes, I'll be there'. I think I even told them to look for me, yeah right.

So, there I was free to go out, but the stores were closed so I could not get a 'new' party outfit. Therefore, I went to my closet. I don't know why because I've had my fair share of experiences in which the clothes in my closet have let me down. This night was no exception. I tried on outfit after outfit just to throw the clothes on the bed. They all left me disappointed for one reason or the other.

There was the cute black crochet top that was kinda sexy because it was see-through with a black-cami underneath, but even with Spanx and a tummy cincher, my middle was still protruding with this top on especially from the side, so I tossed it!

There was the little black dress except it really wasn't little and all though it looked okay the first time I wore it, something about tonight - I just wasn't feeling this dress on me. I mean even with the muted-silver belt cinching the waist, it made me look like I had absolutely no figure, at all. I looked like an undefined, blob of matter - too squared off at the hips and flat in the back, so I tossed it!

Then, there was this really fly black halter-top, I thought that it would look great paired up with jeans. Well, as I tried on the black halter-top with the jeans, there was only one problem. My girls were not fitting my demi the way the used to and I didn't want to risk having a walrobe malfunction, so I tossed it!

Needless to say, my room was a mess, but in reality so was I. After three failed attempts at trying on outfits my spirits were down, it had gotten really late and I missed yet another party.
The usual end to such a closet fiasco would have been for me to eat the rest of the chocolate that I had around the house, feel sorry for myself and go to sleep.

This time, I did not do that. I didn't eat all the chocolate in the house - this time I was really upset, angry even. After being angry at myself for letting myself even get back into this dreaded size 18 after just losing 30lbs two years ago and feeling faboulous in my clothes, I was upset at the Fashion Industry. Why be mad at the Fashion Instrusty, you say?

1. Because 'they' don't believe that big girls go out
2. Because 'they' don't believe that big girls make out (If so, why don't they make Vicky Secrets in plus-size?)
3. Because 'they' make sexier clothes for pregant women

If the Fashion Instrustry realized that we were sensual women too, they wouldn't be so adament about making plus-size clothes that look like garments for grandmothers and it should not have to cost a fortune just for a few more inches of thread for the fashionable clothes that you can find made for plus-size women.

I mean, here I am, a gorgeous and talented woman in my own right, making a decent salary for myself, but no matter how much money I had spent on clothes through the years, I always felt that I looked like 'a hot mess' when it came to what I was wearing and just could never seem to get it right, especially when my weight flucuates backinto the plus-sizes that I can't seem to escape.

That's it, I've had it with missing out on invitations, special events, parties and LIFE. I'm too young to sit here and let life pass me by and so are you. I'm on a special mission to help change the ease of which fly girls and amazing women like myself who are sick and tired of looking too matronly or like a blob in their clothes can have the same type of access that thinner women have to fashion that fits. Also, I must tell you the very next night, I went out and had a blast! I ended up wearing the black halter top, all I needed was the right undergarment for my girls and I rocked it!

I would like to share my fashion tips and ideas with you that I used to transform myself from looking and feeling like a mess to looking like a goddess in only 24 hours. Why settle for looking like a 'hot mess' when you can look like 'a goddess'? If you can relate, I would like for you to post your own experiences of having a hard time searching for an outfit to the point that it caused you to stay home and miss a social event, please share.